Pattern

This is what I heard him say, "Once you see a pattern, you can't change it."

Hmmmm

Of course I can. I can see the pattern of my past and make adjustments.
Simple, I should be the teacher here. :)

After a great pause and 'the look'. I opted to sit quiet, hands folded, and listen for the explanation.

He was saying the patterns that can't be changed are what was.

That is so true. I knew that. :)

once you see the pattern
there is no denying

what was remains

alter if you can
alter if you must
alter if you will

make new patterns
form new memories

your outlook may change